I woke up with two thoughts: there are two victims of adoption who need help and not necessarily from each other: the adoptee and the first mother. Each has its own burden and neither can heal the other.
Read it here: http://eagoodlife.wordpress.com/2012/10/13/naming/
READ THIS: 2010 news story from Colorado; http://www.boulderweekly.com/article-3990-judge-orders-woman-a.html
Deportation Cases: http://poundpuplegacy.org/deportation_cases